I just attended my cousin’s wedding ceremony at a church nearby my place and the pastor brought up a very interesting topic. Instead of the usual blessings and wanting the newly-wedded to love, care and share for each other, instead he was speaking of skyrocketing divorce rates and the practical-ness of marriage. (if there is even such a word)

Nonetheless, I totally shared his sentiments. Anyone who ever talked to me on this topic would know I am kinda of an anti-marriage person. Anyone who asked me if I am planning to get married, I will give you this “Are you kidding?” kind of look.

Not that I am planning to be a nun. I doubt I will ever be disciplined enough to be one.

But let’s just say for reasons even that I couldn’t describe, I have this phobia of being married.

He mentioned, the 3 wrong reasons to get married, the 3 reasons to not to get married and finally the only reason to get married. At first I thought, the only reason to get married will be Love. That would suits the situation right? After all, it’s a wedding ceremony.

However, he continues to baffle me by saying that, it is a mystery that a man and a woman will want to get married.  And that reason remains unknown, it’s a mystery.

I never believed in marriage. Maybe because I have seen people getting the paper signed for all the wrong reasons. Some regretted, some are still living with it, and perhaps, some are truly happy.

Yet it doesn’t motivate me one bit to want to exchange the freedom I have now for a piece of paper, of the status, of the priviledges or whatsoever other reasons/benefits there might be. If you are getting married for these reasons, how different is that from a business transaction?

Nonetheless, I am still happy for my friends who are getting married. Perhaps for them, they found the reason to want to live the rest of their lives together and I will definitely give them all my blessings and well wishes. In fact, I am pretty hyped about my very good friend who will be getting married this coming January. I truly feel so happy for her, after being with her bf for 5 long years.

Altho she is already anticipating plenty of disagreements after marriage, but I could tell she is really happy. For the moment at least.